No Man's Land - ceding territory

D's father is still with us but i'm extremely happy to report that having a visitor is actually proving to be beneficial for us. Over the previous week we've discussed a lot about my pushiness. i came to a realisation that in a lot of areas of our relationship i was employing a 'see a need, fill a need' philosophy and kind of filling gaps, often by pushing D to do what i felt He needed to do.

i'm now making a conscious effort to step back, to welcome Him into no man's land and beyond, over into my boundaries and it feels great. i'm by no means perfect at it, but i'm getting better i think and D definitely seems to be enjoying the 'room to maneuver- and boy! is He maneuvering.

i'll post the juicy details tomorrow when we're back to our normal routine again.

Below is the post i left on our private blog on Friday though...

The change since i've made myself stop 'filling the gap' feels huge and dramatic! It makes me feel like, in the past i had developed a habit of not just filling the gap but invading Your territory.i left You no room to maneuver and that is where a lot of our rows stemmed from.

Now i am beating a retreat and welcome that You are hot on my heels. i relish in You marching through no man's land and breaking down my defences. i am preparing to submit my capital to You and learning to speak Your language. 

i bow to a new King and gracefully hand You my autonomy because i believe You are a worthy leader with a well earned victory on the near horizon.

(this is a lion marking His territory )