Recently real life has bitten in the backside in several ways. i think, because the cement of our D/s (or whatever you call it) foundations was still wet, it had kinda knocked the whole structure out of whack. Big chunks of the building started to fall down as the scaffolding fell away.
Over the last three days we've managed to extend our contract and look at redigning the basic architectural design. We've had to remove some more parts of the building in order to re-align the foundations, but hopefully the new design will not be so easily knocked.
Some key elements of the new design:
D recognises a need to be firmer with me.
i see that physical punishments are unlikely to work for us, particularly to begin with - we've discussed some alternatives.
D intends to commit to remaining open and not shut off from me.
i know that i must improve my attitude and remain respectful even when i feel D is not sticking to something - ie i must commit in the same way.
i have suggested the idea of finding a mentor for D, He has asked me to set up a blog for Him as i kind of first step to this - so watch this space.
we are both going to focus on regaining the fun and experimentation element as a priority - so i think we're very open to ideas and suggestions :)
The whole experience has been very draining but i do think we're in a better, more stable place than we were before. i am closer to really believing that D wants this just as much as i do - i am truly experiencing His commitment, His ownership and i hope we can keep it more consistent now.
Hopeless Dom
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I am pretty hopeless at being a dom in some senses, I think I haave got to
grips with the basics of the kinky sex which I was interested in and
physicall...
13 years ago
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Most organic structures have to be broken down in order to be strengthened, like bone or muscle. They can't just be re-inforced by adding to the outside the way you can with a building or a bridge. Relationships are organic, so this process has to happen. But it's a good thing, even if it doesn't feel like it.
ReplyDeleteWhat gg said... it's good you guys are working through it and discussing what needs to be done to make things better in your relationship. Sometimes it takes a lot of reworking until you get into a groove.
ReplyDeleteAsha doesn't have a blog or anything, but he's always willing to answer questions and help out new dominants. If you want, you can send me an email (hisspirited1@gmail.com) and I can send you his private email to pass on to D.
*hugs*
spirited